Tried and True Advice from The Wisest Americans. Based on 1000+ interviews with older people.
Marriage
Marry someone a lot like you: Core values, Background.
Friendship is as important as romantic love.
Don’t keep score. Both parties support the relationship.
Talk to each other.
Do not just commit to your partner - commit to marriage itself.
Career
Chose a career for the intrinsic rewards, not financial ones.
Do not give up looking for a job that makes you happy.
Make the most of a bad job.
Emotional intelligence trumps every other kind.
Everyone needs autonomy.
Parenting
It’s all about spending time with your kids.
It is normal to have favorites, but never show it.
Do not hit your kids.
Avoid a “rift” at all cost (major fight).
Take a lifelong view of relationships with children.
Aging
Being old is much better than you think.
Act now like you will need your body for 100 years.
Do not worry about dying - the experts do not.
Stay connected (avoid social isolation).
Plan ahead about where you will live (and your parents too). Senior living communities can be great
No Regrets
Always be honest.
Say yes to opportunities.
Travel more.
Choose a mate with extreme care.
Say it now (before someone passes away).
Living
Time is of the essence (life is short).
Happiness is a choice, not a condition.
Time spent worrying is time wasted.
Think small (simple daily pleasures).
Have faith (religious community).
Disclaimer: These are notes I created from reading the book. This is not completely comprehensive and may include errors and typos. No guarantee is provided as to the accuracy of the information. It is provided for educational purposes only.